Why mental?
I mean mental because it can drive you crazy when you can not handle it. I mean mental because the force gets stimulated by the brain. If you consciously seek extreme pleasure, you may not get it. If you are jobless, then you think that doing something with the body might help you. You might think passing time with explicit content might end your problems. Yes, it does but temporarily. See the problem with explicit content is that it captivates your brain. It gives you doses of dopamine, a neurotransmitter. It is a feel-good hormone. I mean when you do or consume something, it gives you the feeling of accomplishment. However, anything that produces dopamine will very likely become the reason for addiction if people do not know how to handle it. In a society, there are habits that are not considered to be a disease. But this thing I am talking about is a grim disease.
Watching it for the sake of throwing your internal essence away from your body is the main issue.
Here the intentions are incorrect and delusional. To know the right intentions, read the following points.
If you can not help but watch something with the intention of enjoying it, then it’s good. Then you actually get aroused. But still, I regard the process as unhealthy for your overall growth as a human being. These contents itself is harmful so I would recommend having meaningful relationships and a work life.
You must forget all things revolving around Sex. Do not think about it will not work. So replace it with work and hobbies. Then when situations come, you will naturally know what to do and how to enjoy.
Love your whole body the way it is. Take care of it daily. Do not view your sex organs as a part from which you only release your urine and your vital force. Love it as an important body part.
Your libido will give you confidence trust me on that. Exercise more.
Sex Drive/ Libido
Sex drive is an automatic system our bodies have. Keep track of what actually ruins it. Obsessiveness towards sexual feelings can turn into an abnormality. You can lose your mind in the pursuit of it as well. It is the idea of pleasure and there is a thin line in it. We generally cross it and seek extremity.
We are hard-wired to go to extremes in every domain of life.
The challenge of modern society is not to do anything extreme, the peace is in the middle path. So, use your brain.
Porn gives you unnatural expectations. But think of the states of extreme excitement versus the state where you are relaxed. I mean in a relaxed state, you get aroused more and you get good pleasure. Impatient forces are not something I regard as sexy but it is hot at times. We think we need sex all the time. But most of the time we need intimacy, fulfillment, or wholeness within ourselves. We want spiritual peace, Right?
When we do not get fulfillment from work or any other stuff, we search for it in sex or even in drugs and alcohol. These types of indulgences are easy forms of indulgence. I am not saying it is bad, I am just saying it.
